If you hear again "Not today, dear", there is a reason to think about the reasons. Perhaps he was tired, ill, or found a mistress ...
You read on the Internet that a man wants sex 19 times a day. But why is the faithful peacefully sniffing into the pillow, instead of a passionate night of love? Suspicions creep in: what if he does have sex? Do not rush to accuse him of all mortal sins. British scientists generally state that 62% of men refuse sex more often than women. So let's figure it out.
7 common reasons he avoids sex
1. Tired of the monotony
Sex is like a delicious dish. I want it again and again, until it becomes boring. If in bed you have everything according to the same scenario, and ingenuity is at zero, male libido will irrefutably fall. There will be a feeling that he is really paying off his marital debt. And normal men do not like being owed to someone.
Ask your husband: "Honey, how can I make you like it?" Believe me, he will be delighted with your sincere interest in making him happy. If the answer surprises you, don't rush out of the bedroom yelling "pervert." Talk frankly, you will find a compromise.
2. Tired
There is a stereotype that a man relieves tension with sex. In principle, yes, it happens. But if he has a real load (the project is on fire, shares have fallen 10 times, management changes) - he will not always admit it to you. Will silently reflect, walk sullen or ... sleep. Well, he doesn't have the energy to play sex games. It happens to men.
Try having sex in the morning (when you get enough sleep is the main condition). At this time, there is a peak in the growth of the main male hormone testosterone. A man is full of strength, it is easier to excite him, and at the same time - to give a boost of vigor for the whole day. Look, with your help from work in the evening, he will bring a triumphant mammoth.
3. Neighborhood interferes
Wife dancing striptease to grandfather's snoring behind the wall? Yes, it is difficult to tune in to the right wave if housing conditions do not allow. But not by relatives alone. Often the intimate life of young parents suffers, there is simply no strength and desire left after caring for a child. And if the baby sleeps with you, write lost!
Separate family and sex life. Intimacy doesn't fit in with your parents in the next bedroom or turning your bed into a playpen. Sex in marriage is very important, but it takes space. Gently hint about this to your husband - a worthy man will understand everything and solve the problem.
4. The biological clock
Men are people too, not just earners and males. Biorhythms affect desire no less than the daily routine, load or nutrition. Simply put - he simply wants to sleep.
Analyze what makes your husband cheat on you with Morpheus. Maybe he eats heavily at night or pushes himself in the gym after work? Correct adjustment of the daily routine and vitamins will help him not to fall asleep ahead of time.
5. Sick
Since ancient times, when a man was unwell, he hid from the outside world as much as possible. He lay down and licked his wounds. Therefore, when my husband has 37.1, he will not only refuse sex, but also call an ambulance, take painkillers and lie in bed for ten days. Even if there is no visible damage on it, leave your husband alone. The disease will pass, the desire will return.
If you suspect serious problems - depression, stress, taking antidepressants, alcohol addiction - run to the doctor, because this is a completely different recipe for recovery.
6. Little eroticism
Refresh your wardrobe, go to the salon, sign up for the gym. Overhead? At least smile often and go jogging in the morning. And most importantly - forget about reproaches, brain removal, comparisons with others and sour facial expressions. Men appreciate lightness, femininity, tenderness and sexuality. These qualities can be pumped, there would be a desire.
7. Another woman
Remember, a man's refusal to have sex with his wife is not a 100% sign of treason. More often than not, a man who is cheating keeps up with both. Such a masculine nature.
If he really cheats, then both are to blame, two will also have to bear the answer. Time to discover his reason for the treks to the left. A man most often looks for fresh emotions, new impressions, and not just anal sex. Therefore, ask yourself the question: what does he receive less from his wife, what has found her "help"?